The Study of Dith

humor and humanity in the life of an American in Canada



I am beyond disgusted with the Government of Alberta and its treatment of Aboriginal people. 

Me too, but can somebody tell me what I can DO about it??? I never have and never will vote for those PC oil obsessed assholes, but aside from that, how do I keep their machine from crushing all of us?

Ditto. I can’t vote here so that isn’t even an option for me. I try to do what I can, for instance I’m suggesting at today’s staff meeting we make it an official protocol to recognize we work on Treaty Six land at all of our public events, but I feel like that’s a grain of sand against a mountain of systemic racism and oppression. I can’t even imagine how non-white, non-cis straight people experience the AB government if it makes me, the most privileged, sick to my stomach.


cat: places paw tentatively on boob
me: please–
cat: presses paw down on boob
me: don’t–
cat: slowly, agonizingly walks across boobs

(Source: majesdanes, via scornflakes)


"The Tale of Princess Kaguya is one hell of a swan song, the kind of film that’s beautiful and whimsical and then just eviscerates you…”[via]

I saw the North American premiere of this at TIFF and it is a beautiful film. Isao Takahata was there too and I may have fangirled about it by finding a closer seat to hear him speak.

(via buzzfeed)





{ this is a skill i’ve been using a lot lately, thought i’d share :) }

     {  Distress Tolerance Skill: Coloring Mandalas


     1}   go to and print a couple of mandalas that you like. (you can also find some on google images.)
     2}   buy set of colored pencils or markers if you don’t have them. more colors = better
     3}   buy a clipboard if you wanna lie in bed and color.
     4}   set these aside and ready to go so they are easily accessible when you are distressed


     1}   choose a mandala from your pre-printed stash
     2}   set a timer (phone is good) for 30 minutes
     3}   color it with ur markers or pencils. i prefer pencils.
     4}   optional: play an audiobook or music while coloring. make sure it’s not sad music.
     5}   when timer goes off, stop coloring. ask yourself, what level is my distress right now? if still high, set timer for another 30 minutes and keep coloring. if tolerable, stop coloring and do thing you want to do.
     6}   repeat as needed until distress is tolerable


     coloring patterns is distracting enough to pull your attention away from negative thoughts/emotions, but mandalas are also repetitive so you can kind of “zone out” while coloring. it feels good being able to create something and you feel a sense of competency or confidence. there’s no competitive aspect to it so you can just do the activity without having to worry about doing it perfect or right or better than anyone else. it can remind you of a simpler time when all that was expected of you was coloring. :) it is easy and almost everyone can do it.


    — stick to the timer. even though you want to keep coloring when it goes off, stop once you finish the segment you’re on and put the pencil down. tell yourself you can come back and finish it after you do the thing you’re putting off.

    — you can do this activity without using a timer, especially if you don’t have anything planned for the rest of the day and aren’t using this to distract from a task :)) 

    — practice coloring during times when you’re not distressed, so that when you need to use this skill it will be easier and more “automatic”. i can’t stress this enough. even though coloring is really simple, it’s much better for the activity to feel familiar so that you can easily use it during distress. so if you can practice it during normal times it’ll help u. think of it as homework if you have to — you are building up a memory muscle.

    — if you feel guilty because you’re “wasting time” doing a “childish activity”, remind urself that ur doing this for your mental health, that this is an established skill recommended by top psychotherapists, and that calming down your distress so you can actually *do* the stuff you’re worried about (rather than procrastinating all day about the thing and not actually doing it) is the opposite of wasting time. remember that practicing this skill even when you’re not distressed is HOMEWORK, not optional time wasting thing. also, taking care of ur mental health is not a frivolous activity. it’s very important and crucial to a happy successful life.

I’d like to add that coloring inside the lines neatly and skillfully is something that impresses the fuck out of most artists. Yes, even professional working artists. I have seen artists genuinely lose their shit with admiration when someone could color inside all the lines (sometimes that artist is me). SO if you’re coloring and thinking ‘this is dumb i’m not an artist i bet an artist would laugh at me’ be assured most artists would actually be hooting enviously at you and then asking to borrow your crayons.

This is so cool.

Just might use this in class, and for myself, and for when V gets old enough to stop drawing on EVERYTHING.

To Do!!!



Well I can end my unofficial search for Edmonton’s best washroom. Kobe Sushi in the west end has Japanese robot toilets with lots of buttons and heated seats. Very unexpected, highly recommended.

Ok, so now I need to check this place out! Was it good food too?

I went, I ate, I pissed, and I giggled endlessly afterwards bc the toilet spritzed warm water on my tookus

We’re going to Australia for the winter break to visit Manfriend’s sister who lives in the Sydney area. Manfriend’s mom and brother are coming as well. it’s going to be a fantastic trip. We’re going to get a camper van and drive up to Brisbane for the Woodford Folk Music Festival over the New Year. I might die from the heat but that’s ok. I’ll be visiting a new continent/country and will get to swim in a new part of the Pacific Ocean.

At first, Manfriend was going to stay longer in AU than me, maybe an extra week. But, then we mailed my application for Permanent Residency and now I’m so full of border anxiety (already? I know…) that I asked him really quietly if he would please be on the homebound flight with me because I was terrified of sitting in some customs office, all alone, with angry border agents all around me. He scooped me up in a big hug and said, “of course” and that is exactly why I feel so grateful so much of the time.

I couldn’t ask for a better partner, especially through this weird and scary immigration process. I can’t even begin to imagine how much weirder and scarier it is for non-English speaking, non-white people who have entirely different alphabets to immigrate.

So yeah, I’m going to AU and I’ve submitted the first round of paperwork to stay in Canada permanently. Things are happening!

My little window into the internet is full of either anti-colombus day or quasi-happy thanksgiving day content. Oh, hello there North American colonialism.